When Stress is Too Much for Mom to Handle
Is the stress of being a parent becoming too much to deal with? Every parent deals with some level of stress. After all, part of raising a family not only means giving them the love, affection, and attention they need, but it also means taking care of the house and maintaining a job. Not to mention you must somehow maintain a relationship with your spouse and find time to care for yourself. It can be unnerving, to say the least. Although normal for parents, if you’ve found yourself feeling stressed more than usual, you must diligently work to find resolve – before stress overtakes your life.
Signs You’re Too Stressed Out
If a parent is always dealing with some level of stress, how in the world do they know when they’ve reached their boiling point? Chronic stress manifests differently in everyone, however, some clear signs you’re at your max includes:
- You’re forgetting everything
- You find yourself yelling more at your children or spouse
- You’re always tired
- You experience headaches and body aches often (and have begun using lots of pain meds to cope)
- You’ve stopped taking care of your responsibilities as a mom
- You can’t focus at home or work
- You’re self-medicating with drugs and/or alcohol
- You feel emotionally drained
- You feel unfulfilled in your personal life
You’re Stressed to the Max. Now What?
Do you currently display any of the above-mentioned signs? If so, you’re likely stressed to the max and need to get help – fast. This is especially true if you’re abusing or dependent upon painkillers, street drugs, or alcohol. There are facilities like Casa Capri that offer in and outpatient programs for women in need of substance abuse treatment. If you’re not struggling with addiction, but have experienced some of the other warning signs in your life, here’s what you can do about it:
- Talk to your spouse – your significant other is your partner in parenting and should be able to help you reduce your stress. Talk to them about what you’re going through and ask for their assistance. This could mean taking on more responsibilities with the kids or doing more around the house so your plate isn’t so full.
- Maintain your own identity – so many parents, mothers, in particular, spend so much time focused on raising their families, that they neglect their own personal interests. It is imperative to maintain your own identity so you don’t grow to resent your children. Pick up a hobby, volunteer with an organization you’re fond of, simply find some way to spend time on something that is exclusively for your own pleasure and personal growth.
- Lower your bar – you want nothing more than to be a great parent to your children.
However, trying to be and do it all for them can become stressful. Lower the
expectations you have of yourself as a parent and realize you don’t have to be perfect
to be the perfect mom for your kids.
- Talk to someone – whether you find a parent support group, talk to a family member, or entrust a counselor, talking to someone can often help to reduce stress immensely.
- Discuss problems that may be going on in your life. Venting allows you to get it off your chest and in some cases, can help you to find a resolution.
Being a parent isn’t an easy role. There is a lot of responsibility that comes with caring for someone else’s life. Be that as it may, when the responsibilities of parenthood have weighed you down to the point that you’re stressed to the max, it is imperative to make some changes. Stress does damage both physically and mentally, not only in you but in your children as well. Do right by yourself and your family by getting help and making necessary changes so that you can continue to be the best parent possible.