Finding Balance as a Working Parent : Advice from a Working Mom of 2
Being a working parent is hard. It feels like your constantly running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to juggle balls and not a single one hit the ground. I wouldn’t trade it for anything though. See, I’m not the type to be a stay at home mom full time. I enjoy my work and honestly with the field I’m in if I stopped I’d have a heck of a time just picking up where I left off. I’m a front-end software and application developer. I’m a code writing monkey and I love my job but I love my family more.
So how do you find a balance between work and family? Isn’t that just the million dollar question?! I work daily to find a balance between the two. I have a great job that allows me to telecommute a couple of days a week which takes the stress of mornings out of the mix and I don’t have to do the horrible commute into the office. So, that helps.
Make Family Time
One important thing between work and home life is making time for each other and engaging in activities that all family members can take part in. It can be something as simple as a movie night. We have movie nights at least once a week and usually on a Friday so we can take time and just be together, snuggling and eating popcorn.
On Sundays we just started family game night. Loo loo is now old enough to play games with us so this is a great way to get the family together and have some fun. Their favorites are Candy Land and Catch the Fox. This Christmas I’ll be stocking up on more games we can all play like this cute Minions Kerplunk game
Limit after school functions
I see so many parents running around constantly trying to get from one activity to another and it literally leaves no down time whatsoever. I really don’t know how they do it. I commend them for their dedication and ability to do all the crazy running around without going crazy themselves. I couldn’t do it. So we limit after school activities to 1 for each child. This year its gymnastics and I was lucky enough to get both of the girls enrolled so we only have to go one night a week for 2 hours. The girls are beyond excited about it as they’ve been begging to go and are doing cartwheels and somersaults around EVERYWHERE.
Use that vacation time
I’m blessed to have a job where I get a fair amount of paid time off. If you get time off, use it. Don’t let those days go to waste. While we couldn’t afford to do a big vacation this year I still took the time and we did a little stay cation with the girls and visited the fair, went to the drive in movies and just hung out together at home. It was wonderful time together and we made lots of great memories. Please, don’t let those precious PTO days go to waste!
Always have some me time
Me time is important. You need time to sit and think, relax and just be on your own to wind down or reflect. It helps tremendously! Sometimes, I’ll stay up later than I normally would just to get that precious hour of quiet time to myself. I’ll spend time in the bath, reading, playing games at a online casino like MGM casino online or just partake in a game of Candy Crush or Words with Friends. It might not be a huge chunk of time but those few minutes of alone time can do wonders for your mental health being a busy parent.
Of course, as a parent you’re always learning the ropes and are constantly evolving as a parent. With my girls getting older and more independent things have gotten easier for sure. They can dress themselves and help out with little chores around the house and this certainly helps keep the balance and takes some of the stress away. I’m always trying to do better as a working mom and there will be failures along the way, its inevitable. I just have to remind myself that no one and no parent is perfect. We do what we can and we do our best. There will be bumps along the way but whats important is that your family is healthy and happy and the little (okay, maybe some big) screw ups along the way shape us.